Learn about working with Elizabeth "Liz" Polinsky
Things We Can Talk About
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BUILDING TRUST AFTER AN AFFAIR
DECIDING WHEN TO END A RELATIONSHIP HEALING FROM BREAK-UPS & DIVORCE DIFFERENCES IN SEX DRIVE OR SEXUAL DESIRES DECIDING TO TRY NON-MONOGAMY HEALING FROM SEXUAL TRAUMA HEALING FROM SEXUAL ADDICTIONS |
MILITARY LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS
COPING WITH DEPLOYMENT NAVIGATING LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DEALING WITH MOVES ADAPTING TO CAREER CHANGES DECIDING WHETHER OR NOT TO GET MARRIED PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE |
Marriage Counseling & Family Therapy
TO CREATE HAPPY, HEALTHY, & LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIPS
You feel hopeless, frustrated, and lonely.
Even with the people who are supposed to be the closest, you feel distant and disconnected. You are tired of feeling like roommates with those you love the most.
You have tried everything you can think of -- asking for advice, reading books, listening to podcasts. You have tried to do things differently, and have also tried to get your partner to do things differently. It hasn't worked. And despite your efforts, it seems like whatever you do just makes things worse.
You are often left wondering:
Should I just give up?
Is there anything that can save this relationship?
What am I missing to turn things around?
Even with the people who are supposed to be the closest, you feel distant and disconnected. You are tired of feeling like roommates with those you love the most.
You have tried everything you can think of -- asking for advice, reading books, listening to podcasts. You have tried to do things differently, and have also tried to get your partner to do things differently. It hasn't worked. And despite your efforts, it seems like whatever you do just makes things worse.
You are often left wondering:
Should I just give up?
Is there anything that can save this relationship?
What am I missing to turn things around?
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IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE THE LOVE YOU LONG FOR! You're exhausted; you know something has to change soon to prevent divorce. While things have improved a little in the past; it didn't last. You want a better relationship. You just aren't sure how to get there. Lasting change is possible with the right therapist who is trained in helping relationships like yours. What you need is a guide who knows where to go and how help you to get there |
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WHY RELATIONSHIPS GROW DISTANT: As humans, we are all biologically wired to connect to our significant others. We rely on them for comfort, support, and to help us deal with the stresses of life. We look to them to help us keep our emotional balance. Because our brains are so in-tune with our significant others, when something feels off in the relationship our brains code that as a threat. It completely throws us off our emotional balance. In trying to cope and regain balance, you end up unintentionally pushing your partner away. They loose their emotional balance, try to cope with that, and end up pushing you away. And around it goes. Couples unintentionally trigger each other in their attempts to regain balance in the relationship, and this leads to a negative feedback loop. It can turn into a vicious cycle. Every couple has a pattern like this -- that's normal! The issue is when relationships get stuck in the cycle and can't repair. Trust erodes away, and people stop being open with each other. The relationship no longer feels warm, caring, and safe. Eventually, even though we want to be close, we actually put up walls because we feel afraid of being hurt. |
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HOW I CAN HELP:
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is designed to help you recognize the pattern, slow it down, and get to the heart of what is producing the cycle. By going below the surface to the deeper emotions that you are each experiencing, you can find your way back to each other again. You both long to know that you matter to each other and are accepted. But this is hard to see because the cycle has distorted your view of each other. When you understand the heart of what is creating the cycle, it becomes easier to see each other more clearly. The positivity starts coming back. It gets easier to see a way forward and have hope for the future. It becomes easier to fight because you can trust each other to be caring and to help repair afterward. When goals are realistic, it's safe to make mistakes and step on each other toes because you know you can repair, reconnect, and get on the same page with each other again. It may seem impossible now. But with a new sense of security in the relationship, you'll feel more confident, start flirting again, your sex life will improve, and you'll be surprised by how good the relationship feels--possibly better than it has ever been! |
Are you ready to take the next step toward healing your relationship?
Elizabeth Polinsky currently works in-person at The Relationship Center at East Beach in Norfolk, Virginia.
Online Therapy is available for Virginia, South Carolina, and Arkansas.
Online Therapy is available for Virginia, South Carolina, and Arkansas.
4615 Pleasant Ave., Suite B
Norfolk, Virginia 23518 |
Elizabeth.Polinsky@relationship-center.com
info@relationship-center.com |
MAIN: (757) 788-2800
FAX: (757) 788-2778 |